This is one cool my pic my colleague sent to me;
hope the rain actually showed....hmmm, come to think of it; it hasn't been raining for the past few days...
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Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Cherish...
I've just attended this class on preventing injuries and accidents and I must say that the emphasis here is to minimize injuries at work and also to learn to be considerate; care for others while thinking of your own safety. In fact, the theme or the notion of the course itself was "I Love Life".
Ironic how sometimes we tend to take things for granted and how we often adopt the mentality of "Things only happen to others, it will not happen to me"; kinda idealistic but in truth, is the world out there this way? Do things really happen to everyone around us but not us? Sadly, that is just a make-up belief that we instill in our brain to make ourselves think in an absurdly and extraordinarily optimistic way; not to say that being optimistic is not good but being overly optimistic sometimes can be harmful and destructive as well. Furthermore, in situations where you become overly optimistic, you may end up being too self-conscious and adopt the "I don't care" behaviour; thus visualizing a near-perfect world in where they live in.
We watched a video on this guy, Charlie who worked in the Exxon company; a well-renowned oil and petrol refinery company. Being an engineer himself, Charlie was often required to go to check on the plants' condition and thus at most time, the company's rules and regulations emphasizes on the safety equipment to protect their employees. However, Charlie, as he called it, scorned at the idea of having to dress himself with such ridiculous wearing gear, claiming that it looks sissy and not "macho" to be wearing it. He only does it in front of his superiors and most of the time, he heroically bares it all to check on the fuel plant. However, one day, an accident happened; an explosion of some sort and he suffered serious injuries, with the scalding and and some serious burns on himself and his hands. This caused much anxiety among his family members and his parents.
In a split second, his whole life changed. He had to undergo a major surgical operation and got his chin replaced; his 2 daughters; one of which was a top achiever in school dropped out and resorted to drugs and drinking and even contemplated suicide. He regretted all he had done; he loved his wife and he was so sorry when he saw the scars on his hands when he outstretched them to hug his wife. Everything in his life, the "oh-so- perfect" picture crumbled to pieces; as quoted from Charlie, his whole life changed in a split second and all this because of he's too proud to wear something he thinks is humiliating for his image and his stupidity has led to the misery not only of himself but also of his loved ones.
Touching huh? Funny to think how most of the happenings actually stem from little things..and in this story, you can truly see, how an ego actually caused a huge impact on his entire life forever and also on his loved ones.
Had he obediently complied with the rules set by the company, he would never have to endure all the pain and misery he is going through currently. All for proving that nothing can happen...when accidents are unpredictable; in fact, life itself is unpredictable.
Too often we dwell on our own pride that we tend to neglect the fact that things can happen to us as well. Also, to be heroic and taking chances may not be an individual act and doing this can be selfish; you do not account for your own actions although you claimed that it is your own life you are meddling with. Your life is intertwined with others; and though it is yourself that you want to mess with, it will naturally impact others around you; your close ones. Think of how everyone will feel....if you are hurt, also your life does not belong to you alone; God or our Creator is the owner of your or our lives. If you enjoy in causing the misery to others, go ahead....but think of how heartbreaking for a mother to see her son hurt in an accident, a wife waiting patiently for her husband from work to find that he perished in a work-related accident, etc. You may be hurt or even,
If you notice, even the public messages from the authorities in addressing the high increase of the mishaps and accidents have reverted its style to be of more towards the psychological aspect and reminding you of the ones around you and no longer focus on the impact on you. For instance, when you are on the highway, they will tell you that drive carefully, think of your loved ones. It's trying to create that reverse effect to get you thinking on your loved ones and that you should cherish your life to enjoy more time with them:) I guess that's an effective way of getting it through as well *wink*
So, let's think of the consequences of our actions before we act; be considerate to others; care not only for yourself but also for others when you are about to do something. THINK before you act; think of your loved ones...
Remember, the CHOICE is in your hands....and most of all, tell yourself this "I LOVE my LIFE" (",)
Ironic how sometimes we tend to take things for granted and how we often adopt the mentality of "Things only happen to others, it will not happen to me"; kinda idealistic but in truth, is the world out there this way? Do things really happen to everyone around us but not us? Sadly, that is just a make-up belief that we instill in our brain to make ourselves think in an absurdly and extraordinarily optimistic way; not to say that being optimistic is not good but being overly optimistic sometimes can be harmful and destructive as well. Furthermore, in situations where you become overly optimistic, you may end up being too self-conscious and adopt the "I don't care" behaviour; thus visualizing a near-perfect world in where they live in.
We watched a video on this guy, Charlie who worked in the Exxon company; a well-renowned oil and petrol refinery company. Being an engineer himself, Charlie was often required to go to check on the plants' condition and thus at most time, the company's rules and regulations emphasizes on the safety equipment to protect their employees. However, Charlie, as he called it, scorned at the idea of having to dress himself with such ridiculous wearing gear, claiming that it looks sissy and not "macho" to be wearing it. He only does it in front of his superiors and most of the time, he heroically bares it all to check on the fuel plant. However, one day, an accident happened; an explosion of some sort and he suffered serious injuries, with the scalding and and some serious burns on himself and his hands. This caused much anxiety among his family members and his parents.
In a split second, his whole life changed. He had to undergo a major surgical operation and got his chin replaced; his 2 daughters; one of which was a top achiever in school dropped out and resorted to drugs and drinking and even contemplated suicide. He regretted all he had done; he loved his wife and he was so sorry when he saw the scars on his hands when he outstretched them to hug his wife. Everything in his life, the "oh-so- perfect" picture crumbled to pieces; as quoted from Charlie, his whole life changed in a split second and all this because of he's too proud to wear something he thinks is humiliating for his image and his stupidity has led to the misery not only of himself but also of his loved ones.
Touching huh? Funny to think how most of the happenings actually stem from little things..and in this story, you can truly see, how an ego actually caused a huge impact on his entire life forever and also on his loved ones.
Had he obediently complied with the rules set by the company, he would never have to endure all the pain and misery he is going through currently. All for proving that nothing can happen...when accidents are unpredictable; in fact, life itself is unpredictable.
Too often we dwell on our own pride that we tend to neglect the fact that things can happen to us as well. Also, to be heroic and taking chances may not be an individual act and doing this can be selfish; you do not account for your own actions although you claimed that it is your own life you are meddling with. Your life is intertwined with others; and though it is yourself that you want to mess with, it will naturally impact others around you; your close ones. Think of how everyone will feel....if you are hurt, also your life does not belong to you alone; God or our Creator is the owner of your or our lives. If you enjoy in causing the misery to others, go ahead....but think of how heartbreaking for a mother to see her son hurt in an accident, a wife waiting patiently for her husband from work to find that he perished in a work-related accident, etc. You may be hurt or even,
If you notice, even the public messages from the authorities in addressing the high increase of the mishaps and accidents have reverted its style to be of more towards the psychological aspect and reminding you of the ones around you and no longer focus on the impact on you. For instance, when you are on the highway, they will tell you that drive carefully, think of your loved ones. It's trying to create that reverse effect to get you thinking on your loved ones and that you should cherish your life to enjoy more time with them:) I guess that's an effective way of getting it through as well *wink*
So, let's think of the consequences of our actions before we act; be considerate to others; care not only for yourself but also for others when you are about to do something. THINK before you act; think of your loved ones...
Remember, the CHOICE is in your hands....and most of all, tell yourself this "I LOVE my LIFE" (",)
Sunday, March 26, 2006
Rainy days...
Tip tap tip tap....it's raining again...yippee!!~
I've always enjoyed the rainy season; I always look forward to the rain; probably an understatement, I should just say I simply LOVE rain..hahaha :)
However, I do not like too much rain when I am driving on the road though; especially on the highway...if you refer to my previous post, you'll know why..hehehe:p Also, when I am outdoors, it's usually not so cool anymore...haha....so, that's the only time I would ask the rain to go away:p
It's been raining cats and dogs for the past week; not that it's such a bad thing considering the months of dry and hot spell we've been having since Chinese New Year. The rain is really hitting it hard now; I could hear the downpour right now (current location is in one of the travelling cubes which is near the long isle of windows *wink*).
Rainy seasons are so dreary and romantic - quoted from one of my gal pals back in my summer camp and also one of my Stockman mates. Pretty cool huh? Probably it is romantic, I mean, come to think of it, most of the romantic scenes in a movie are in the rain. Duh, half the movies I've watched, the romance either starts in the rain or ends in the rain(heartbreaking) and also the happy scenes of reconciliation :) Well, well, well, seems like there is a little romance in the air...erm, rain :)
Anyway, I noticed the trend with the rain of late; which starts early in the morning on weekdays and proceed with the long-term rain-> rains for the whole day. However, on the weekends, it only rains in the evening or at night. Pretty weird....seems like the weather is time selective as well..haha.....it's only working on weekdays and then it gives itself a break on weekends *wink*.
Sometimes I associate the rain with the female gender, thus referring to the rain as "her"....probably because rain seems to be always linked to crying and ahem, girls are always "accused" as crying prone creatures....or in short, cry-babies:p
A close friend of mine told me that the rainy season is here in conjunction with the Ching Meng festival observed by the Buddhists and Taoists community; basically the Chinese community in general. The Ching Meng festival is the time when all the family members would gather and visit their relatives' or ancestors graves. This is an important event in the Chinese calendar which observes the filial piety value or teaching by Confucius which urges the younger generation or the descendants/successors to pay their respects to their ancestors. Also, this is also one of the major family reunion; just as in Chinese New Year as according to the Chinese custom, it is deemed important for everyone in the family to partake in the ceremony.
Yeah, well, I've heard of that from my mom and grandma as well; in fact, this is also the month where there are typically lots of taboos...not much outdoor activities are encouraged; similar to the seventh month of the Chinese Lunar calendar. The Chinese believe that during the third and seventh month, the spirits from the nether world will roam the Earth - only difference is, during the third month (now for Ching Meng), the spirits are limited to the vicinity of the cemetery grounds whereas in the seventh month, they are everywhere. According to the superstition of the older folks, the statistics showed that accidents and cases of death are suspiciously and abnormally high during these months. Believe it or not, this is always a question for everyone....
That's the explanation they had for the high density of rainfall during these time of the year. However, geologically speaking from the scientific point of view, it is the monsoon season which occurs according to the Earthly elements and not related to the netherworld....aaahhh, the line between science and the supernatural...always debatable:p
Haha...in fact, my department was actually looking forward to organizing this team- building in the forest and everyone was kinda pumped to go for it. However, everyone shook their heads vigorously (figure of speech) to show their disapproval to go during the month of Ching Meng :p
Myth or fact....the truth is out there....
In the meantime, let's continue enjoying the cool wind and the nice rain...."Raindrops keep falling on my head"...
I've always enjoyed the rainy season; I always look forward to the rain; probably an understatement, I should just say I simply LOVE rain..hahaha :)
However, I do not like too much rain when I am driving on the road though; especially on the highway...if you refer to my previous post, you'll know why..hehehe:p Also, when I am outdoors, it's usually not so cool anymore...haha....so, that's the only time I would ask the rain to go away:p
It's been raining cats and dogs for the past week; not that it's such a bad thing considering the months of dry and hot spell we've been having since Chinese New Year. The rain is really hitting it hard now; I could hear the downpour right now (current location is in one of the travelling cubes which is near the long isle of windows *wink*).
Rainy seasons are so dreary and romantic - quoted from one of my gal pals back in my summer camp and also one of my Stockman mates. Pretty cool huh? Probably it is romantic, I mean, come to think of it, most of the romantic scenes in a movie are in the rain. Duh, half the movies I've watched, the romance either starts in the rain or ends in the rain(heartbreaking) and also the happy scenes of reconciliation :) Well, well, well, seems like there is a little romance in the air...erm, rain :)
Anyway, I noticed the trend with the rain of late; which starts early in the morning on weekdays and proceed with the long-term rain-> rains for the whole day. However, on the weekends, it only rains in the evening or at night. Pretty weird....seems like the weather is time selective as well..haha.....it's only working on weekdays and then it gives itself a break on weekends *wink*.
Sometimes I associate the rain with the female gender, thus referring to the rain as "her"....probably because rain seems to be always linked to crying and ahem, girls are always "accused" as crying prone creatures....or in short, cry-babies:p
A close friend of mine told me that the rainy season is here in conjunction with the Ching Meng festival observed by the Buddhists and Taoists community; basically the Chinese community in general. The Ching Meng festival is the time when all the family members would gather and visit their relatives' or ancestors graves. This is an important event in the Chinese calendar which observes the filial piety value or teaching by Confucius which urges the younger generation or the descendants/successors to pay their respects to their ancestors. Also, this is also one of the major family reunion; just as in Chinese New Year as according to the Chinese custom, it is deemed important for everyone in the family to partake in the ceremony.
Yeah, well, I've heard of that from my mom and grandma as well; in fact, this is also the month where there are typically lots of taboos...not much outdoor activities are encouraged; similar to the seventh month of the Chinese Lunar calendar. The Chinese believe that during the third and seventh month, the spirits from the nether world will roam the Earth - only difference is, during the third month (now for Ching Meng), the spirits are limited to the vicinity of the cemetery grounds whereas in the seventh month, they are everywhere. According to the superstition of the older folks, the statistics showed that accidents and cases of death are suspiciously and abnormally high during these months. Believe it or not, this is always a question for everyone....
That's the explanation they had for the high density of rainfall during these time of the year. However, geologically speaking from the scientific point of view, it is the monsoon season which occurs according to the Earthly elements and not related to the netherworld....aaahhh, the line between science and the supernatural...always debatable:p
Haha...in fact, my department was actually looking forward to organizing this team- building in the forest and everyone was kinda pumped to go for it. However, everyone shook their heads vigorously (figure of speech) to show their disapproval to go during the month of Ching Meng :p
Myth or fact....the truth is out there....
In the meantime, let's continue enjoying the cool wind and the nice rain...."Raindrops keep falling on my head"...
Wednesday, March 15, 2006
ReNu Solution Alert!!
Whoa....I just read about this news this morning in the Star.
How irresponsible are these solution producers.....I mean, does the word quality control and human lives ring a bell to them?
I can't believe that these solution actually cause the disease, fungal keratitis infection which could cause permanent blindness in the contact lenses' users.
Well, well, well.....first I received a message on the effects of wearing contact lenses during BBQ party(bet most of you know about that too) and now, even the solution themselves which are supposed to be the disinfectants and removing the dirt from the contact lenses are the ones which are causing harm! Man, the eyes are the delicate organs and yet.....sigh, this is so freaky!!
Furthermore, the outrageous thing is, these are the more well renowned brands in the industry and I despise the manner they treat their users, elevating profit above the benefit of their customers without whom, they will not obtain their profit and here, they do not care a tuppence on the consequences which will befall the innocent people.
Probably this entry may sound a little fierce; but I am always against any acts of imposing harm to others. I believe there should be more control over the products manufactured. Another thing, I am also surprised it took so long for the authorities to realize this is hazardous to the users?? Yeah, just as well, since there are already affected casualties.....sigh, this always has to happen before action will be taken.....what else can I say?
To the contact lens users, do take care....and to the manufacturers, please do reflect on your mistakes and I hope you feel duly well-ashamed of yourselves for causing such permanent grief to others. As for the authorities, I hope there's more prompt action in the future.
Let's just hope that the injuries will be minimized and that this early detection could also lead to the fast recovery; have a little faith :)
How irresponsible are these solution producers.....I mean, does the word quality control and human lives ring a bell to them?
I can't believe that these solution actually cause the disease, fungal keratitis infection which could cause permanent blindness in the contact lenses' users.
Well, well, well.....first I received a message on the effects of wearing contact lenses during BBQ party(bet most of you know about that too) and now, even the solution themselves which are supposed to be the disinfectants and removing the dirt from the contact lenses are the ones which are causing harm! Man, the eyes are the delicate organs and yet.....sigh, this is so freaky!!
Furthermore, the outrageous thing is, these are the more well renowned brands in the industry and I despise the manner they treat their users, elevating profit above the benefit of their customers without whom, they will not obtain their profit and here, they do not care a tuppence on the consequences which will befall the innocent people.
Probably this entry may sound a little fierce; but I am always against any acts of imposing harm to others. I believe there should be more control over the products manufactured. Another thing, I am also surprised it took so long for the authorities to realize this is hazardous to the users?? Yeah, just as well, since there are already affected casualties.....sigh, this always has to happen before action will be taken.....what else can I say?
To the contact lens users, do take care....and to the manufacturers, please do reflect on your mistakes and I hope you feel duly well-ashamed of yourselves for causing such permanent grief to others. As for the authorities, I hope there's more prompt action in the future.
Let's just hope that the injuries will be minimized and that this early detection could also lead to the fast recovery; have a little faith :)
The Moon Represent My Heart
I noticed for the past two days; or nights ...theoretically not correct, it's during the dawn time frame...where I can see the big round moon up there in the sky. It's shining so brightly; in fact I think yesterday was even brighter; and bigger in size.
It's so beautiful in sight that I was so inspired to write about it. Hmm...today I am in a poetic mood...yippee, guess my inspiration is back. I haven't been writing poems for like,.....ages....probably due to the lack of inspiration or the mood is just not there.
Anyway, something hit me today, and I am really pumped with the poetic blood today...hehe, I was even thinking of creating a blog or xanga for my poem....and I was thinking of a name for my blog; somehow the name "Dead Poets' Society" came to my mind but hey, touch wood!! I am not dead yet...haha, and I am a live poet...although technically not that qualified to be a poet, since my poems are only for leisure writing and not really that professional.
Also, I really want to thank those who have always offered words of encouragement and support for me to get my poem-writing going. Also, I do know there are avid fans of my poems out there; one of them being my bestest friend who just asked me recently whether I have any new poems for her to read :) Thanks, gal....:)
The previous post on the poem which I subconsciously and spontaneously conjured at the spur of the moment may not live up to the expectations; I find it an "okay" piece.....just for fun though, so if you feel it's lousy, just pay no heed to it:P
Aaaahhhh....with the beautiful moon in sight, doesn't it reminds you of the song by Theresa Teng, "The Moon Represent My Heart"? Haha....ironically, I just thought of the song today and not at the moment I saw the moon :P And yeah, I bet some of you out there probably think that this blogger is just so corny, thinking of such an old song to associate with the moonlight....hahaha...this is an evergreen song for your information. Oh, besides this song, another would be " Yue Kwang Kwang"...I think, another song which is also deemed quite popular during the Mid-Autumn Festival.
So, The Moon Represent My Heart...I do know that it's a love song....but somehow, I have this weird inkling sometimes as to why would someone want to associate your feelings in your heart for your loved one with the moon? What is the significance of the moon? It's big round and yellow, does that mean that your love is also big and round?Haha...not to mention yellow in colour....guess you'd be having some very serious disease if you have a yellow heart....haha....no offense meant.
Jokes aside, there's also the connection of Shang 'Er as the Moon Goddess, but that we will talk about it during the Mid-Autumn festival....hehe, too entranced with the moon's beauty and I just decided to blab about it in this entry.
I do hope to see the big round moon tomorrow morning when I wake up.....hmmm, but they say when the moon is bright, it means the sun will be also bright since the sun is the light provider to the moon, or in scientific terms; the reflection of the sun is the moon :) So, would I like to see a bright and beautiful moon and risk a hot and sunny day with an equally big and round fiery sun?
Haaa....tough choice but....nah, no more hot sun....it's getting hotter by the day.
Guess tonight Mr. Moon will be looking as cheerful again...since today it's blazing hot....:p
It's so beautiful in sight that I was so inspired to write about it. Hmm...today I am in a poetic mood...yippee, guess my inspiration is back. I haven't been writing poems for like,.....ages....probably due to the lack of inspiration or the mood is just not there.
Anyway, something hit me today, and I am really pumped with the poetic blood today...hehe, I was even thinking of creating a blog or xanga for my poem....and I was thinking of a name for my blog; somehow the name "Dead Poets' Society" came to my mind but hey, touch wood!! I am not dead yet...haha, and I am a live poet...although technically not that qualified to be a poet, since my poems are only for leisure writing and not really that professional.
Also, I really want to thank those who have always offered words of encouragement and support for me to get my poem-writing going. Also, I do know there are avid fans of my poems out there; one of them being my bestest friend who just asked me recently whether I have any new poems for her to read :) Thanks, gal....:)
The previous post on the poem which I subconsciously and spontaneously conjured at the spur of the moment may not live up to the expectations; I find it an "okay" piece.....just for fun though, so if you feel it's lousy, just pay no heed to it:P
Aaaahhhh....with the beautiful moon in sight, doesn't it reminds you of the song by Theresa Teng, "The Moon Represent My Heart"? Haha....ironically, I just thought of the song today and not at the moment I saw the moon :P And yeah, I bet some of you out there probably think that this blogger is just so corny, thinking of such an old song to associate with the moonlight....hahaha...this is an evergreen song for your information. Oh, besides this song, another would be " Yue Kwang Kwang"...I think, another song which is also deemed quite popular during the Mid-Autumn Festival.
So, The Moon Represent My Heart...I do know that it's a love song....but somehow, I have this weird inkling sometimes as to why would someone want to associate your feelings in your heart for your loved one with the moon? What is the significance of the moon? It's big round and yellow, does that mean that your love is also big and round?Haha...not to mention yellow in colour....guess you'd be having some very serious disease if you have a yellow heart....haha....no offense meant.
Jokes aside, there's also the connection of Shang 'Er as the Moon Goddess, but that we will talk about it during the Mid-Autumn festival....hehe, too entranced with the moon's beauty and I just decided to blab about it in this entry.
I do hope to see the big round moon tomorrow morning when I wake up.....hmmm, but they say when the moon is bright, it means the sun will be also bright since the sun is the light provider to the moon, or in scientific terms; the reflection of the sun is the moon :) So, would I like to see a bright and beautiful moon and risk a hot and sunny day with an equally big and round fiery sun?
Haaa....tough choice but....nah, no more hot sun....it's getting hotter by the day.
Guess tonight Mr. Moon will be looking as cheerful again...since today it's blazing hot....:p
Big Mr. Moon
As I look up at the sky
There I see it up so high
Smiling brightly back at me
within its clear visibility
Big, yellow and shapely round
Reflecting itself directly on the ground
Shining its light ever so bright
Leading us through the darkness of night
The night is quiet and lonely
but the moon there I can see
is always filled with company
with millions of stars in the galaxy
Soon the day will come
and we will have our Mrs. Sun
Let's wait for her job to be done
before we could say we truly want
our favourite only one
Mr. Moon for our whole night fun!!
There I see it up so high
Smiling brightly back at me
within its clear visibility
Big, yellow and shapely round
Reflecting itself directly on the ground
Shining its light ever so bright
Leading us through the darkness of night
The night is quiet and lonely
but the moon there I can see
is always filled with company
with millions of stars in the galaxy
Soon the day will come
and we will have our Mrs. Sun
Let's wait for her job to be done
before we could say we truly want
our favourite only one
Mr. Moon for our whole night fun!!
Tuesday, March 14, 2006
12-year old orphan gang-raped
The status of my ex-classmate from university prompted me to take a peek at The Star online towards the end of the lunch hour. What can I say, what has become of our Malaysian society today? Seems like the society values and moral dignity no longer exist -- what happened to the tagline Malaysian is a caring society which we so proudly bore previously?
I am truly shocked and disgusted at this; how many rape cases have we read about and occurred in our country? It was not that long ago following the brutal rape cum murder of the girl in Sungai Petani who just went for a jog and got herself killed subsequently.
Also, what about the previous infamous cases of Canny Ong , Melissa and the UTM girl? Oh, and also the 9 year-old girl in Kedah if I am not mistaken who was found a few metres away from the house?
Are we ever going to have an end to this all?
If you noticed, seems to me that the manner of the conduct of the crimes is getting more brutal in time; the nation seems to be more and more stunned by the crime nature each time it is exposed in the newspapers.
This 12-year old girl was an orphan; as reported in the newspapers and attended a concert in town in Sungai Petani(again) where she befriended a group of guys aged between 18-22. They met the following day and they invited her to a paddy field where they took turns to rape her.
I guess the initial reaction from most people would be, "Hey, she asked for it; haven't we had countless reports telling girls not to follow strangers and yet she's following them to the paddy field...", "Desperate girl"..."Girls never learn"...bla bla bla.
The point is, why are we always pointing our fingers at the victims? Do you really think a girl would ask for this to happen to herself? First, we are often blamed for the way we dress, the gestures and body language, suggestive expressions, etc. Now, my question would also revolve around the so-called democracy and liberacy in the country? Why aren't women allowed to wear what we feel comfortable with without being accused of leading the "sick" men on?
In most of the rape cases, the victims are often viewed as the ones invoking the crime unto them; it's as if the girls have nothing better to do than to invite...yeah, "INVITE" rape to be inflicted upon them. In case you are unaware, do you know the effects an action like this can do to a girl? And mind you, these effects will not be temporary; definitely not a pencil mark which you erase off immediately...in fact, rape victims are known to suffer from a lifetime trauma and they lose not just their dignity but their very own self in the process.
Also, when we read on the reports of girls befriending guys and then getting raped after that; the girls are often pinpointed as the one who deserve it since they befriend strangers.
Ho!....when does anyone ever has the right to judge who others can talk to or befriend? So, does that mean all the girls should hide themselves in the house and bundle themselves with super thick clothes and look as scrawgly as possible to minimize their own risks of getting raped?
Oh wait, ain't we forgetting something here....even fathers, uncles and grandfathers rape their own daughters, nieces and grand-daughters. Need I say more if you are stepdaughter in the family?
Guess we need to keep them in the bubble; hmmm...on second thought, something hard, like metal or rock.
These criminal impostors need to be educated; they are the ones at fault...I am sometimes amazed at their nerve to even revert the blame back to the victims, that they initiated it.
Again, nobody has the right to rob another person of anything. Rape is definitely a despicable act; and it's robbing a girl of her self-dignity, respect and lifetime happiness.
Raping is without the permission of the other party; even if you are married, there's still no right for the husband to force himself onto the wife if she is not willing.
Even more disgusting are the incestuous relationships; where the father rapes his own daughter...ugghhhh...it's their own flesh and blood....I totally cannot imagine how they could cause this harm onto their own offsprings.
Then comes the unwanted consequences; illegitimate pregnancy. The controversion sets in whereby abortion is illegal in the eyes of the law. However, given the trauma the girl has to go through, sometimes we have to bring ourselves to understand how they feel. Yes, it is not right to kill an unborn life; But....how does the victim deal with this for the rest of her life if she wants to carry on with her life? The child would probably be the memorablia of the unwanted incident which they would have to carry with them; casting the shadows unto their lives forever.
I am not saying this to support abortion for rape victims but it's another perspective to look into the abortion cases. Also, most ladies would prefer to be dead subsequent to the rape...in that case they don't have to live with it forever.
Anyway, I still believe that nobody should ever blame the ladies in rape cases; if the men can learn some self-control and know the consequences. For the satisfaction of their lust, they have caused a girl her life's worth.
"A flower in the bloom has been plucked and ruined"....
Let's hope the society will stand up together in this neverending battle to stop the violence against women....
And....last comment, rape cases may not apply to women alone in this contemporary society; even men can be in turn, raped by women....laughing? Apparently, this is no laughing matter as well....as I've said, nobody has any right to inflict harm on others....
I am truly shocked and disgusted at this; how many rape cases have we read about and occurred in our country? It was not that long ago following the brutal rape cum murder of the girl in Sungai Petani who just went for a jog and got herself killed subsequently.
Also, what about the previous infamous cases of Canny Ong , Melissa and the UTM girl? Oh, and also the 9 year-old girl in Kedah if I am not mistaken who was found a few metres away from the house?
Are we ever going to have an end to this all?
If you noticed, seems to me that the manner of the conduct of the crimes is getting more brutal in time; the nation seems to be more and more stunned by the crime nature each time it is exposed in the newspapers.
This 12-year old girl was an orphan; as reported in the newspapers and attended a concert in town in Sungai Petani(again) where she befriended a group of guys aged between 18-22. They met the following day and they invited her to a paddy field where they took turns to rape her.
I guess the initial reaction from most people would be, "Hey, she asked for it; haven't we had countless reports telling girls not to follow strangers and yet she's following them to the paddy field...", "Desperate girl"..."Girls never learn"...bla bla bla.
The point is, why are we always pointing our fingers at the victims? Do you really think a girl would ask for this to happen to herself? First, we are often blamed for the way we dress, the gestures and body language, suggestive expressions, etc. Now, my question would also revolve around the so-called democracy and liberacy in the country? Why aren't women allowed to wear what we feel comfortable with without being accused of leading the "sick" men on?
In most of the rape cases, the victims are often viewed as the ones invoking the crime unto them; it's as if the girls have nothing better to do than to invite...yeah, "INVITE" rape to be inflicted upon them. In case you are unaware, do you know the effects an action like this can do to a girl? And mind you, these effects will not be temporary; definitely not a pencil mark which you erase off immediately...in fact, rape victims are known to suffer from a lifetime trauma and they lose not just their dignity but their very own self in the process.
Also, when we read on the reports of girls befriending guys and then getting raped after that; the girls are often pinpointed as the one who deserve it since they befriend strangers.
Ho!....when does anyone ever has the right to judge who others can talk to or befriend? So, does that mean all the girls should hide themselves in the house and bundle themselves with super thick clothes and look as scrawgly as possible to minimize their own risks of getting raped?
Oh wait, ain't we forgetting something here....even fathers, uncles and grandfathers rape their own daughters, nieces and grand-daughters. Need I say more if you are stepdaughter in the family?
Guess we need to keep them in the bubble; hmmm...on second thought, something hard, like metal or rock.
These criminal impostors need to be educated; they are the ones at fault...I am sometimes amazed at their nerve to even revert the blame back to the victims, that they initiated it.
Again, nobody has the right to rob another person of anything. Rape is definitely a despicable act; and it's robbing a girl of her self-dignity, respect and lifetime happiness.
Raping is without the permission of the other party; even if you are married, there's still no right for the husband to force himself onto the wife if she is not willing.
Even more disgusting are the incestuous relationships; where the father rapes his own daughter...ugghhhh...it's their own flesh and blood....I totally cannot imagine how they could cause this harm onto their own offsprings.
Then comes the unwanted consequences; illegitimate pregnancy. The controversion sets in whereby abortion is illegal in the eyes of the law. However, given the trauma the girl has to go through, sometimes we have to bring ourselves to understand how they feel. Yes, it is not right to kill an unborn life; But....how does the victim deal with this for the rest of her life if she wants to carry on with her life? The child would probably be the memorablia of the unwanted incident which they would have to carry with them; casting the shadows unto their lives forever.
I am not saying this to support abortion for rape victims but it's another perspective to look into the abortion cases. Also, most ladies would prefer to be dead subsequent to the rape...in that case they don't have to live with it forever.
Anyway, I still believe that nobody should ever blame the ladies in rape cases; if the men can learn some self-control and know the consequences. For the satisfaction of their lust, they have caused a girl her life's worth.
"A flower in the bloom has been plucked and ruined"....
Let's hope the society will stand up together in this neverending battle to stop the violence against women....
And....last comment, rape cases may not apply to women alone in this contemporary society; even men can be in turn, raped by women....laughing? Apparently, this is no laughing matter as well....as I've said, nobody has any right to inflict harm on others....
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